While you might be right about Regency women in general, I think JA makes the point in her novels that the man's character is important and would never have allowed Jane to marry a weak character. While, we are not privy to Jane and Bingley's conversations after his return to Meryton, Jane does tell Elizabeth
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``Would you believe it, Lizzy, that when he went to town last November, he really loved me, and nothing but a persuasion of my being indifferent would have prevented his coming down again!''
``He made a little mistake to be sure; but it is to the credit of his modesty.'' (Elizabeth)